Problem 1: Elsie is decidedly a SHE, not an it.
Problem 2: If she wants me to talk to her, no, Elsie cannot go away.
Solutions? First, I'm going to see if Els will simply go sleep in one of her boxes in my room, then I'll quietly step out. But if she starts to fuss and wants to come out, I am not going to keep her shut up.
If she does fuss, maybe we can go across the highway to Starbucks to meet.
If it's too public, maybe we can go to my mom's.
My BSS is supposed to be really good. She has a 21-year-old son with Asperger's, so I hear that she "gets it." I don't want to give up on her, but this is a big problem...